"He who is not satisfied with a little, is satisfied with nothing." ~Epicurus~
Giving up the goal-oriented climax can improve every aspect of your life. Climax should not be the goal and ideally could occur before, during or after making love. It can create a deeper feeling in a relationship giving one a different perception and more awareness of your partner. If you can extend the on going feeling of closeness, the love making and sharing of energy, would you want to give that up for a 15-second orgasm? It may sound very radical, but you may find the emotional intimacy far outweighs any of the thrill and the chase of getting to climax.
The holding and breathing with eye contact and flow can be very conscious...from the genitals to the heart. Even for those with a high sex drive and the ability to perform for a length of time, sex can become a grind and that can create projections and resentment that cause disharmony, especially after that temporary honeymoon phase wears off. There is no special technique, its a practice about not doing, about getting your goal-driven mars mating ego out of the way long enough to fall into a state of relaxed union.
The orgasm really isn't in our genitals, but actually between our ears and if you can get out of your head and into your body, you may just find that holding back can be an enjoyable way to tiptoe around the ego's agenda.
Thanks for reading.
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