Nov. 26, 2015
Our ideas of family vary depending on our personal history, and change throughout our life. Some of us are born into a family while others are adopted or fostered. But either way, without proper alignment, consistency, and love, children feel empty and scared, wondering if they're wanted and grow into adults with the same issues. In the best of circumstances, a family provides children security, warmth, and a place to flourish with attentive elders who guide them into adulthood. In less favorable circumstances, family can be a place of uncertainty and even danger.
Your family forged you into the person you are today. Patterns of feeling, thought and behavior were set and based on a multitude of factors: the region of the country you lived in, the culture or religion you grew up with, the intergenerational abuse you may have suffered. The complexities of who you've become are a tapestry of people, places and events, all of which form your "self." Even the best-meaning parents can co-create insecure children by simply being insensitive. The process of growing into adulthood requires that we examine these early, set patterns that still string us along and keep us acting out immaturely. One of the quickest routes to self-knowledge and, thereby, eventual self-liberation is self love and appreciation. At TAC we help guide you through healing practices and meditations that help all of your family-of-origin issues emerge, play out, and can then be healed.
In adulthood we often create our own families by having or adopting children. However, family can also be a group of people you gather together over time, who know and love you, who support you in your endeavors, sexual orientation, spiritual exploration, and other personal choices without judgment. By healing your shame and other problematic patterns from childhood, you will attract like-minded people who will comprise your "family of choice."
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