Jan. 7, 2016
All of us at TAC are vibrating love for this new year and like most others we have pondered the meaning of love like the poets, from the beginning of time. The Greeks spoke of three types of love: Agape, Philia, and Eros.
Agape is a love that is so deep and profound it includes the universe; it is a feeling that emerges from inside our being and encompasses the depths of our soul.
Philia is the love we feel for our friends--the warm, familial gentleness that brings security, laughter and kindness to our lives.
Eros, or romantic love shot from good old Cupid's arrow, is the love that starts wars, moves mountains, and makes star-crossed lovers like Romeo and Juliet die for one another (we don't suggest the dying part) Eros is passionate and sexual and, like a powerful drug, sends us into a swoon (and sometimes out of our right minds). It inoculates us to our lover's imperfections so that we enter the commitments of everlasting love which are necessary for building a family.
In the game of tennis "love" is a score of zero, suggesting that when we're in love the score is even and all is well. But how often do we not keep a competitive score in love relationships? This "tit-for-tat" score-keeping holds the ball in play so that we don't have to look at ourselves. Research shows that when contempt, defensiveness, blame and shame are the main ways of a couple's style of relating, divorce is surely on the horizon. Conversely, utterances of love and appreciation are antidotes to the nasty, "I won, you lose!" words that eat at the foundation of love.
Keep the score zero in your love relationship. Give generous doses of gratitude, make caring gestures to your partner daily, and watch the passion and abundance grow and watch the amazement of others at just how easy it can be.
Thanks for reading.
Live. Well. Now.