May. 5, 2016

Memories

It's been said the thought of a tiger is not a tiger but it can still bother us.  In the same way, the memory of an event is not reality but can still be troublesome, especially if you've ever had anyone challenge your version of events. Defending the validity of one's memory can be hard-won but is necessary for sanity and self-esteem. But...autonomy is not the same as accuracy.
 
Even the most open-minded of us can have a narrow outlook, and every human memory is by its nature flawed.  If we happened to experience an event from our distant past with our current perception, our perspective on it NOW would vary from our memory of it. So how do can we learn to work with the unreliable recollections of our memory?
 
Like dreams, memories come to mind bearing meaning for our present situation. But memories may also become neurotic. Have you ever fallen into a lapse moment, replaying certain emotionally charged scenarios? That look someone gave you...The tone of their voice... The way they affirmed or denied you.
 
Resentments are the ultimate mental loop, usually reinforcing you own inner complex. Euphoric memories, interestingly, are equally a trap by the compulsive echo of arousing memories. It takes practice to shake off deeply embedded thoughts, usually through disclosing the truth of key memories with a trusted friend, guru or partner.
 
We must engage past memory to create future change. We must constantly remember our intentions. Change is not natural for many of us; implicit memories have been imprinted into the very cells of our brains and bodies which, having learned life from a certain angle, always expect those same results.  It's only through the process of memory that we can remake our dreams into our desired reality. 
 
Thanks for reading.
 
 
As always,
Live. Well. Now.