Aug. 18, 2016

The Façade

Have you ever wanted to tear down someone's facade? Any kind of conflict can trigger old feelings of not being listened to, of being misunderstood. Worse yet, another's deceit and dishonesty can be crazy-making times when you have to be on the other end of all that. At times, we all feel as though there's an important truth or authenticity that's being hidden from us.  If we could only get to the heart of the matter...
Yet in reality, we all wear masks, to our benefit or harm. The ability to make up elaborate, usable constructs is an instinctual coping mechanism that let's that good old ego function. We can't peek behind all façades, but we can make choices toward a healthier process of confronting our own masks of deception and denial. The personal self can mirror the spiritual self in that both become concealed by falsehood. How often do you cover your personal truth?
What's your natural state of being when no one is looking? When we're with people, it can be tough to keep it real.  We may have learned to mask certain feelings, or show feelings that really aren't ours at an early age but as adults, we each need to learn to state our personal truth without having to prove it or shout it. 
If we don't honor our truth, how can we expect anyone else to?
When we can simply express our feelings without being fake, especially during sex, we'll be able to enjoy our real emotions and deepest pleasures. But if we're masking any issues or vulnerabilities, things that we experience have to go through all those extra layers. 
Sometimes love, joy and other good things can't even reach where we truly live.

Thanks for reading.


As always,

Live. Well. Now.