We felt the need to give the Mars side of energy a way to express the notions and ideas of our service, as well as address some of the more ‘unspoken’ thoughts of men that sometimes never get addressed in a frank and spiritually aware manner.
What do you INTEND for your sex life? Your sexual reality? Are you just seeking the proverbial ‘good time’? A thrilling one night stand or choice, pleasure business transaction? Perhaps a loving, gratifying experience with your ‘perfect woman’ or fantasy girl? Yeah, perhaps just to get off, or if you’re in such a place, to get on, move on or get lost. In the end, we get what we intend (no pun, really). Why is intent important? What do you want covering your insides? Your feelings? To shelter your emotional frailty, feebleness or as protection for your emotional being?We are taught in various ways to regulate or control our feelings, to not as men, ‘be like a woman’ and be led astray or get caught up in our feelings. Interesting.
As the research folk seek to learn more about the new buzz of ‘emotional intelligence’, those aware find that once again the mark is missed, particularly when it comes to sexuality and sexual engagement. Intent, Intimacy, Ingratiate…get the picture? How about Mars taking a moment to understand the choice of words and what the words mean that are used to describe or depict our usual sexual behavior. The obvious is that it’s believed to be usually made up of likely intentions or intent of ill repute.
So what does intent have to do with anything? Isn’t all our intent the same? What makes a good intent? We just want some satisfaction - some pleasure - some happiness in whatever way we most feel. Yeah, bad choices that will land you in jail or immediately dead, I guess that may be one truth. Unfortunately, sex has become such a commodity that Mars below a certain stature could find themselves holding their rod, staff and good intentions in their hand, or hands. Perhaps instead of following the programming, we could listen to Venus just a bit more. No, not for direction, but to learn how to set or voice our intentions with what matches us better, not just attempts to flow with no direction or intention.
Increasingly Men are being held more accountable for not respecting the feelings of women in a broader societal sense. Although that can be a good thing, a great thing would be for Venus to speak her truth and have a willing and able Mars stand nearby in case her verbosity is not well received (apologies, but I really don’t believe in Venus having to fend off Mars unless in dire situations, why should ‘she’ fall beneath?) One thing to remember is you will find out sooner about the match of intentions if you don’t attempt to waylay, avoid or control that communication. Choices should match intention, particularly sexual choices, that create or break down our sexual wellness. Why not let your intent be known, and start requiring the same of others, Venus or Mars, that seek to communicate, or as we say, commpulate with you? Can you trust yourself enough to do so? Can you allow enough trust for your partner to do so?
Answer honestly, whatever’s there isn’t going away because you lie to yourself. Let your answer move you to review your intention sexually and see if it matches your partner’s/partners’ intentions. Matching intentions is not a hard thing, it seems so because many of us have been living marginalized lives, especially sexually. To go further, since we may not have ‘any’ intentions but to get through the day, night, weekend, relationship…so be it, we will do just that – then go whine, cry and complain to the few that either don't care, don’t know or can’t show their own intentions. Those living their intentions won’t tolerate it, so usually they don’t get the stories, or they get very few(usually people new to them).
Set your intent for your sexual satisfaction. You deserve it, no matter what it is, no excuses. If you want to engage, say so - if not, say so. If you need ‘more’, say it - less, say that too. If you’ve been hiding what you ‘really’ enjoy because of judgment, criticism = Fear; do yourself a favor, make a plan and say it. Make A Plan, then Say It. No, it’s not easy, comfy, cozy, all’s well’ - but what really is when there is no intent or intent unrealized? Your emotions suffer, and Mars, that leads to your heart attacks, strokes, and other anal diseases (look it up).
To end, let’s give great Thanks to the ever living Reverend Frederick J. Eikerenkoetter II, better known as Rev. Ike, for his famous cliché which we’ll adjust for our purposes;
Good Health, Great Sex, Happiness, Love, Success, Prosperity, Money!
Living with good intention brings fulfillment, supporting happiness, allowing prosperity, and if it hadn’t happened before then, some great sexual wellness.
Live. Well. Now!
As of late there’s been a rise of the ‘SugarDaddy” type of interaction becoming more socially prevalent. The more times change, the more we seem to digress. It should not be a surprise. The tighter the markets and resources get, people become very interested in finding a way to put a spin on practical needs. It’s very easy to notice, just listen to the popular music. Less and less about ‘balling and ‘blinging, and more and more about taking care of and checking the self. The comical side is that those participating in these arrangements wish to pass them off as ‘mentoring’ and all other manner of activity other than what it is, prostitution. I know, I know…there are those that will say it’s a hater’s comment to make, but , keep it real, and practical. While it’s easy to use the usual connotation of the word, I prefer to point you to the more often forgot original use of the word, which according to Webster means “to devote to corrupt or unworthy purposes”.
In this current deficit of meaningful self-awareness and relating, we tend to not pay attention to the married lonely, the straight-up lonely, the individualized single-hood, and now usual non-intimate get-togethers and meetings between people (they are NOT relationships). A sad state indeed, for when opportunities abound for people; especially the men of means, wisdom and maturity, we see the stampede of ‘opportunists’ to use what they have to get next to the youngest hot mama, or wanna be hot mama (let’s keep it very real on that one too) for a change at reveling in the thrills of having sex with one or more of them. I do not hate. Just because it’s not my thing or I’m not seeking to live the Vegas dream does not mean I don’t see the good it ‘could’ have, but the LYING has to stop.
Popping Viagra pills or swishing down energy drinks to try to keep up or perform for your young honey should be evidence enough that this activity won’t get you far. “The Body Keeps the Score”, although it’s a great book, I’m not referring to the book written that shows the need for real treatment of childhood trauma from the ACE scores by middle aged people (mainstream folks at that, who seemed to be void of such troubles). I’m referring to the ills and diseases that come from the shattered spirits and troubled minds that think such an activity will get them above the lack they are experiencing, the men AND the females. Yes, there are some SugarMommas out there replicating such behavior, but Venus has her own games much more fun to play than keeping up with the Boy’s club.
The need for intimacy in your life is real. The need for shared intimacy is critical. Your spirit/soul was not meant for isolation, nor frivolity. The healing nature of sexual wellness has more to do with your inner person than your outer genitals, but if you truly want good physical health and well functioning sexual equipment, it won’t be from avoiding doing the simplistic work towards your sexual wellness that is necessary to have it. We most certainly have come forward enough to know that a superficial ego boost can only take you so far, and the easy attitude about paying for company isn’t the evil one should be aware of. It’s the evil of indulging in the only sin, the untruth to self, which will eventually do you in.
Hey, it's not my party so, go for it Big Daddy, enjoy it while it’s hot. Markets will change again and then what? I once heard a famous rapper say, “The girlies are free, but the crack costs money!” So, what happens when there’s no more money and no more crack?
Live. Well. Now!